Meet the Team: Sr. Event Archtiect Mahvish Bhatty

We are very thankful for our team. Today I'd like you to get to know another of our Senior Event Architects, Ms. Mahvish Bhatty. Mahvish came to Oliveaire with event planning experience, and has impressed her clients with her professionalism and expertise.

What is your favorite part of planning a wedding?

My favorite part is picking out décor with the client. I love to see the wonderful stages and center pieces.


How would you describe your style? Has it changed since you started working in the event industry?

My style is to work closely with the client so I am on top of every detail throughout the wedding planning process. However, this does change when the client wants to take full control.


What has been your biggest challenge in planning a wedding or event?

Getting information on time has been my biggest challenge. The other challenge is making multiple changes too close (less than 2 weeks) to the wedding.


What one piece of advice would you give a newly engaged couple?

Wedding planning can be very stressful and it’s overwhelming when there are many decision makers. Make a plan with your fiancé and families and make one contact person. The less people involved the better, prioritize making yourselves and your parents happy and don't worry so much about the distant relatives.

Put a budget in place and stick to it.

Also, work with your planner and ask for their candid opinion prior to hiring a vendor. We have experience working with vendors and can make suggestions on who we have both positive and negative experiences with. Listening to us and that will make your planning smoother and successful.


Do you have a favorite wedding moment or event (i.e. first dance, when the groom first sees the bride, parents reaction, etc.)?

I love the entrances and all the announcements. The ambiance is very vibrant and energetic. The couple and the family is entering to their favorite songs and doing a little dance. I love it.


How would you describe what you do everyday?

I not only do I plan the weddings/events, but I also try to advise the clients and to keep them relaxed so they can enjoy this process. Being organized is very important as we’re managing multiple weddings at the same time. I interact with all vendors, develop the wedding paperwork (which consists of timeline(s), checklist(s), menu, diagrams, bridal party entrances, and much more. It’s a very busy position, which is fun but also requires great organization and time management skills.

If you you are interested in speaking with Mahvish about your wedding or special event call her at 847-885-3200 or e-mail her here.



Happy Thanksgiving to all of you, we hope you have a wonderful holiday weekend with your friends and family.

Cheers!
Olivia

Sending the Right Message

Often the first impression guests will have of your wedding will be when they receive your invtiation. To make sure you are sending the right message to your guests we turned to paper expert JoAnna Gibbons of J.Invites and asked her to share a few words of wisdom. Take it away JoAnna...


People say the first impression you give should always be your best and should really say something about you. This guideline holds true for your wedding. Before you see the beautiful bride walking down the aisle, before you walk into the reception to see the fabulous decor, it's the invitation that you see. The invitation is the very beginning of your wedding. It is a glimpse into what your guests should expect, from the colors to the ambiance to the formality.


The invitation should speak volumes through its designs and reflect not only your event but also you - the couple to be married. Below are a couple invitations that do so.

This wedding invitation suite is for a more casual wedding, which is represented by not only the wording and style, but also the layout. A formal invitation usually has only the ceremony information on the main card, whereas this one includes the reception information with the cocktail hour, dinner, and dancing all represented by symbols. Also, the RSVP card is a postcard which is usually less formal than an envelope. This invitation speaks volumes about the couple. They're such a laid back pair, and origami cranes really played a large role in the beginning of their relationship. One year for Christmas when Emmitt didn't have the money to splurge on a gift for Katie, he made a bunch of origami cranes and scattered them all over the house with sweet sayings in them. Ever since, cranes have held a special place in their hearts. They chose this as the focus of their wedding decor.

This couple is very elegant and traditional, but at the time very organic. In this invite, the organic nature of the couple is offset by the whimsical look of the tulle and the graphic elements. The colors, fonts, and wording bring an elegant feel to the invite.

Lastly, Kathy and Andrew wanted their invites to look traditional yet rustic. They used cotton papers and letterpress printing, which are very traditional, along with rustic and graphics. Together, these elements show who they are as a couple.

Thanks again to JoAnna of J.Invites for sharing some invitation design tips with us today. As with all other aspects in your wedding, make sure your invitations are a reflection of you as a couple!

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Meet the Oliveaire Team: Sr. Event Architect Adel Domingo

It takes a team to provide all of the services we offer at Oliveaire, all of us have our unique roles, personalities and styles. In the coming weeks you will have the chance to meet the team that makes the Oliveaire experience.

Enjoy getting to know Adel Domingo, Sr. Event Architect with Oliveaire. If you’d like to talk to her about planning your wedding or special event contact her at 847-885-3200 or e-mail her here.

What is your favorite part of planning a wedding?
It’s that moment when my bride and groom start trusting me. That means all will be well because we can tackle anything at that point. That trust between the clients and me is vital.

How would you describe your style?
As a planner I love taking care of my clients by simply listening, responding with a real, relaxed enthusiasm, and executing patiently. I’m a calm person and I think my clients and vendors feel it and they stay calm. I do love researching what my clients like and don’t like, I take great interest in each client I work with. After I’m done with an event, I keep a few notes and photos in their file to remind me how unique they are.

What one piece of advice would you give a newly engaged couple?
The wedding of your dreams is possible, just be realistic with your time and budget.

Do you have a favorite wedding moment or event?
It would have to be when I see the couple’s body language when they are announced as husband and wife. They are just so relaxed and relieved that the main part is over. You can feel everybody exhaling.

How would you describe what you do every day?
It’s sort of this crazy job but it takes a sane person to do it. Most of the time during the planning and creative process, it seems like my day is full of phone calls to vendors, email correspondence, reading, research, and making appointments. Creating time lines takes great focus and sometimes I like to do them in the middle of the night when it’s quiet. Despite what people see in the movies, it’s not always glamorous and easy. Time goes fast for planners; we know how much time a task takes even while a couple does not. We treat time like gold. I also know I can’t take being a part of an important event for granted so despite being laid back and calm, I get very serious and nervous and double check everything leading up to an event.

What advice would you give someone who wants to start working in the event industry?
If you don’t like people, don’t do it. Plan several personal events on your own, take a course, get a great pair of comfortable shoes, and work as an intern. When you want to take the plunge, try it out for a year and see if you still love it. If you can answer an emphatic YES, then it’s for you.

What did your wedding meal look like?
My husband and I were young and did not have the wisdom in planning menus and picking a good caterer like we do now. Our wedding meal was a buffet of mediocre roast beef, Spanish rice, and I don’t remember the rest. I do remember our hazelnut-flavored wedding cake being delicious and the German wine was great.

If we ever do plan a menu for a future wedding anniversary party, I would probably do an authentic mixture of Asian and Mexican fare, my favorite kinds of food, with great bottles of wine and beer and a mojito bar.


Thanks Adel for the great interview.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Silhouette to Buttons: Trends for your Wedding Party!

Today, we have team member Sayira Khokhar sharing some Bridal Party trends with you.

So much effort is spent on picking the bridal gown and the groom's tuxedo, one almost looks at the groomsmen and bridesmaids as an afterthought, but they are just as important as the flower arrangement on the reception tables!

When scouting dresses and suits for the bridal party, keep in mind the theme of your wedding. They will need to compliment the bride and groom.

Open any magazine and flip to the wedding pages, you will see they all have several components in common. While we don't encourage you to copy everything you see, we hope you'll find inspiration you can put your own unique stamp on.


In bridesmaid dresses, think bold & solid colors. The colors of the season range from the a light sage green (at the lighter end of the spectrum) to vibrant colors such as a red orange. I am loving the more exotic and non-traditional colors, such as rust or bright yellow.


The silhouette most popular this season is the “A” line dress. This is a very flattering silhouette for women with curves because the fabric glides over the hips. The top is more fitted to reveal a nice waist. To accentuate the slimmer waist, a wide sash is added. It can be of the same, or a contrasting, color.

The fabrics vary depending on the length of the dress. For example, stiffer fabric is made for something above the knees such as mix of cotton-silk faille or silk organza. These are lightweight but crisp and clean. The sharp and clean lines add an element of modern or abstract design.


Floor length dresses are typically made of feathery fabrics such as, my favorite, silk chiffon. Again, depending on the theme of the wedding, this would add the classical accent to the ceremony. It has a feather light look. It adds a beautiful whisper in the light breeze.

Another trend is exposed shoulders. There are many halter necklines and strapless dresses. The shorter dresses tend to have the exposed shoulders whereas the longer dresses have a halter neckline.

The most interesting trend is ballet flats! This adds a very cute, flower girl look to the bridesmaid. They are also less painful and fun to dance in when the night is long!

Don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten about the groomsmen.

The piece that has grown in fashion is the tie. It is no longer the traditional black or gray. We are seeing the bold splash of color, to compliment the bridesmaids. Usually the breast pocket napkin is the same color but I have seen many mismatching ties and handkerchief.


Depending on the theme, a 3 piece suit gives the feel of the traditional English country wedding, however, the fishtail is not always present. The most fashionable twist is using difference shades of the same color in the men's ensemble. The vest might be a light heather gray, the coat a medium black with matching pants, a white shirt and a white bow tie to contrast the vest. The combinations are endless! (Within reasonable limits of course.)


Buttons. Yes, groomsmen, buttons. Add them to your attire. We like to see different shaped buttons, such as diamonds or squares. Sometimes they are darker or lighter than the coat to accentuate the style.

Enjoy shopping for your favorite ladies and guys, and be sure to give them the chance to personalize their look to show the personalities you love so much!

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Now Raise Your Glass...

The wedding ceremony was absolutely beautiful and the reception is going along fantastically. The MC has started to announce the people to make toasts. Oh no, what will he say? What will she bring up? How long is dad going to talk? These are some of the questions that may be going through your mind but can be handled with a little preliminary work. Toasts can be a very memorable part of the evening and you certainly don’t want it remembered as the time that the best man was too drunk or dad’s speech was 40 minutes long. Here are our top tips, you can share with your toast-givers, to guarantee a successful toast:


Don’t make it about you
You have been asked by the bride and / or groom to give a speech about why the wedding is happening and what makes it so great. The number one key to a successful toast is to make it about the couple you are toasting. Don’t talk about you, rather keep it focused on the bride and groom.

Save the Drinks Until Toast Time
This point seems quite obvious, but it is not. Wait until after your toast to visit the bar. Even if you are traditionally a fantastic speaker, slurring your words will certainly not impress the guests. Also, if one has had a bit too much to drink they may tend to ramble and repeat the same story, and they will not even know they are doing it.

Be clear and concisePrior to the big day decide upon three stories (Max!), and at least one good thing about both the bride and groom as individuals, and one of them as a couple, to incorporate into your toast or speech. The more these stories relate to each other the better.

Don’t get side-tracked
Stick with the pre-planned work you have done on the toast. Stay with the three stories and comments about the bride and groom. Sometimes when you are recalling memories they will lead you to more memories, which can lead to another story, and all of the sudden you are rambling and taking far too long to make a memorable toast. Since the wedding reception room is filled with family, older relatives, and close childhood friends, your toast should be PG or PG-13 rated. Steer clear of any topics that may offend.


Start preparing early
Type or write down your thoughts on the speech. By writing it down it will help you remember it better, and assist you in honing it down, and then it is quite easy to edit if needed. Also by writing it down you can practice in front of the mirror, or a loved one, to get more comfortable in delivering the speech.

Use your Speech 101 skills
All of us at one time or another in high school or college took a speech class. Now is the time to recollect and use those skills. Keep the toast short (3 minutes is a good starting point), keep it simple and keep the audience entertained. Make the guests understand why you were chosen for this special moment. Mixing in some humor and keeping it about the bride and groom is sure to be a winner.

Keep it real
The more true to yourself, the more the audience will be on your side. Some of the best speeches are two to three sentences, sharing a heartfelt congratulations and genuine wishes for full of love, because they were delivered with sincerity that you can see if their face or even hear in the sound of their voice. As long as you are comfortable in honoring the bride and groom this works best.


Have fun
Have fun but not too much fun. You want to deliver your speech fluently and clearly. You want to show emotion and sincerity and that can sometimes be difficult if you are having too much fun. It is a tradition and honor to be selected for this task, and should be given your full attention and regard.

Know that the actual purpose of giving a toast is to wish the couple happiness and blissful life ahead. Make sure you keep this in mind when you say your toast. Give your perspective of why that is the case and then you can gracefully make your exit to the bar.

Cheers!

Picking the Perfect Wedding Date

Today we are over at Top Wedding Sites talking about how to pick your perfect wedding date. Come check it out!



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How “Real” is Reality TV When it Comes to Planning Your Wedding

I love watching "Say Yes to the Dress" as much as the next girl. WE tv can distract me for a few hours at a time as I watch couples navigate all of the decisions that go into wedding planning. However, as someone who works in the wedding industry I am watching from a different point of view than a bride-to-be or single girl daydreaming about her big day.

Reality TV does a great job of inspiring brides. The best, brightest and most cutting edge trends are highlighted for all to enjoy. Wedding related television shows have guided brides in their gown style, inspired décor and bridal party attire color selections and no doubt helped to create some fantastic celebrations.


However, I fear that reality TV has also given brides some unrealistic expectations when it comes to their big day. Many of these shows do not disclose costs, or at least the full cost of their wedding. For example, it is common to see a bride with a $3,000 budget for a wedding gown on television. Given that the gown is often budgeted at 5% of the total wedding cost, we can guess that this gown is part of a $60,000 wedding. The average wedding cost in the United States is $24,000, which creates an average gown budget of $1,200, quite a difference.


There are also costs that are unseen to the untrained eye. In addition to the base cost of any wedding related item you need to leave room in your budget to account for tax (often close to 10%), labor, shipping and/or delivery and service charges (most commonly found with your caterer or venue). These fees can range anywhere from 18% to 24% of your total bill. This will grow proportionally with your overall wedding budget.


Finally, for better or worse, there needs to be accommodation for the cost of living in different locations. The price of labor will likely be higher in a large metropolitan city (i.e. Chicago, New York) than it is in a smaller city. If you have your heart set on a product only available in a larger city you may end up paying more in shipping fees to get it to you. This information is not meant to scare you, rather provide you information to set realistic expectations.


Floral designers, bridal gown consultants, and wedding planners truly do love when an inspired bride comes in. It is lovely to work with a couple who know what they are looking for on their wedding day. So, watch all the reality tv you would like to, and keep notes on your favorite ideas. When it comes time to start your planning, be up front and realistic with your budget. Hire professionals you trust, and work with them to create the day that you have been dreaming of.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for now),
Olivia

Modern Wedding Registry Tips

We are SO excited to welcome our friend Jennifer from Foodie Registry to the blog today to chat with all of our lovely brides about the Modern Wedding Registry.


It goes without saying that traditional wedding registries and etiquette don’t always apply to couples living in the 21st century. These days, couples are waiting longer to get married, and many decide to cohabitate together before marriage, which results in less of a need for the nest-building housewares that have traditionally graced wedding registries.

When my husband Ben and I got engaged, we had already dated for 7 years, and had most of our household necessities. Still, we felt pressured to register for traditional items that we didn’t need, but that we thought people would want or expect us to register for. After looking over our registry at a list of things we were sure would end up gathering dust on a shelf, in a fit of inspiration and rebellion (and being the foodies we are), we created a list of restaurants we loved or wanted to try. The “restaurant registry” was a great success with our guests, gave us date nights for months, and made us realize that ultimately, doing what was best for us as a couple was the best thing to do.

The wedding registry process can be tricky, especially when trying – as all of us do – to please everyone. In the spirit of the independent and diverse modern couple, we thought we would share some of our favorite modern wedding registry tips.

DO register online. This is almost a given for modern couples. Online wedding registries are infinitely more convenient for both guests and receivers. It’s fine to provide a few pick-up options for older or more traditionally-minded guests, but just keep in mind that most of your guests will prefer to purchase their gift online.

DON’T include your registries on your invitations. This is one registry rule that stands the test of time. The main reason is because you don’t want to take any emphasis away from the primary purpose of the invitation – to ask that your friends and loved ones be present at one of the most specials moments in your life.

DO make your wedding registry easily accessible. Word of mouth may be the traditional way of telling guests where you’re registered, but in modern times it is all but impractical. Instead, link to your wedding registry on your wedding webpage, which we highly encourage you to create. Most wedding webpages are free to create and serve as a central online hub of information for your wedding guests. You can also include the URL of your wedding webpage on invitations.

DON’T forget to update your registries on a regular basis. Often times, certain items will be out of stock or get discontinued. Try to monitor them at least once a month to prevent any inconveniences for guests.

DO register for items that reflect you as a couple. If you and your future spouse are avid rock climbers or amateur chefs, why not register for rock climbing gear or cooking classes? In other words, don’t feel pressured to register for things you don’t really want or need. There are many exciting alternative registry options available now, from honeymoon and charity registries, to our own Foodie Registry. You can also go the DIY route and create your own wedding registry!

DON’T wait until the last minute to register. Complete your wedding registries up to 6 months, and no later than 2 months in advance of the wedding, in order to give your guests plenty of time to choose and purchase their gifts.

DO provide a variety of options for guests. That includes a variety of price points, items and registries. We advocate doing what’s best for you as a couple, but we also think it’s polite to think of your guests. If you know your friends will have to travel far for the wedding or have smaller budgets, or if Aunt Edna has always wanted to give you a set of flatware, consider these things accordingly while shaping your registry.

DON’T be afraid to register for what you want. If you already have your towels and spatulas, don’t be afraid to register for things (or experiences!) you actually want and will use. You’ll find that many guests will not only love having some fresh or unique items to choose from, but will appreciate knowing their gift will be truly enjoyed.

DO read FAQs and check for hidden fees before setting up a registry. Unfortunately some registries have added costs, either for you or your guests. Make sure that you are not choosing registries that will charge your guests a service fee.


Jennifer a.k.a. @mrsfoodiereg started Foodie Registry with her husband Ben in 2010, after eschewing the traditional registry at their own wedding in 2008 and creating a “restaurant registry” instead. The registry was a huge hit with guests, and Foodie Registry was born.

What is wedding entertainment?

Today we will learn about all aspects of wedding entertainment from Sr. Event Architect, Adel Domingo.

It’s not just figuring out if you should have a DJ or a band. It is a combination of your wedding fitting your personality, how you want your guests to have fun and most importantly, how you as a couple want to celebrate.

Where do we start?

First, tell the band or DJ your “do not play” or “do not do” list and stick to it. You know what those are – the songs that you really dislike or not letting your crazy relative have a microphone to sing his version of “Endless Love.”

Second, if you feel like choreographing your first dance, make sure you are both committed to it, and rehearse a lot. Even if you’re professional dancers, after a few drinks and the potential weight and size of your wedding gown, you don’t want to trip or have your groom step on your gown. The first dance is important, so pick your favoring song ahead of time together.

You do not need to do a lot to entertain your guests, just enough to let them know you appreciate their presence and that you thought of them.


A few ideas to keep your guests from yawning, or leaving your wedding reception early, are:

1. Make the speeches short. It’s pretty self-explanatory.

2. Make each other feel special. If you can sing, sing something for your groom or bride. Really kiss when your guests clink on their glasses. Compliment your bride publicly on how pretty she looks. Make sure his meal is extra special like surprising him with his favorite steak instead of the chicken you ordered.

3. If you are at a regional area, serve the regional food. For example, if you are having your wedding near apple orchards, add apples to your menu or use apples as place card holders.

4. Ask your bridal party to mingle with the guests or play hosts to the guests. http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifThere are always guests who just know the bride and groom but nobody else. In short, make everybody feel welcomed.

Photo by R.E.M. Photography

5. Combination photo booths and guest books are great during cocktail hour. They are still extremely popular even though they have been around for years now. Why? Because the guests feel relaxed and there is interaction.

6. Hire a great band or DJ. Not only that, make sure the emcee is professional. This means they care about your timeline, how they pronounce your names when announced, and most importantly, they are witty and funny and know when to liven up the party when there is dead time.

7. When you throw the bouquet or garter, attach a gift card to it. Will it make the single guests be more interested to be on the floor? You bet!

8. Have interactive food. For instance, design your own cocktail. Have a martini bar. A chocolate fountain never gets old but a new twist to it is maybe to add a crepe station. The latest is to adding cotton candy or a popcorn machine near the end of the party. A popcorn machine is great if you’re having your event at a theater.


9. Choose an interesting venue or design it so it fits your personality. Do you like wineries, a vintage diner, a garden, a beach, a contemporary ballroom, a barn, or a chalet? No matter what, choose a venue that is interesting.

10. Finally, do not have a cash bar. Having an open bar is still affordable; just ask the venue to customize something that is more affordable. Maybe you can buy your own wine and the venue just charges you corkage fee. You invited the guests to your wedding and it’s more courteous to not have them pay for anything.

Wedding entertainment really translates as making every second special during your celebration. Do not over think or make it over the top so it feels like a circus. Just pick a few ideas so your wedding feels like a unique celebration, something you, your family, and friends will remember as a great experience.

Thanks for this great blog, Adel.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Your Service Signature

No, it's not your wedding ceremony we're talking about, it's the manner in which food will be served to your guests. Believe it or not, one of the most important aspects of your wedding day will be the food and beverage. People will always remember how the bride looked, and how good (or not) the food was. Keeping this in mind, you need to understand the different options that are available out there. Today we will explore the options, and the features and benefits of each.

First we will explore the most popular choice, which is a plated meal. This service is where you, as a bride, will chose the menu to be served directly to each guest. You can choose a single entrée, a duo entrée, a trio, or you can have your guests RSVP their choice from a limited selection. First and foremost, this type of meal service will tend to be less expensive, and look the most formal. It will also typically be, depending upon the venue, hot and directly out of the kitchen. A drawback to this service is it limits the guests to what you have selected for the choices. If you do decide to go with the RSVP meal choice route, keep in mind that the venue or caterer will have to prepare a few extra meals in each category, potentially increasing your costs, because people tend to change their mind when they see the presentation of the entrees.

Second we will tackle the buffet meal. This service consists of one menu being served at buffet tables in the reception room. Your guests will get up from their tables and go through the buffet, filling their plates with the items that they want to eat. This is a good service in that the menu is the same for everyone, and typically comes with several choices for entrees, thereby making it easier to please the picky eaters in your group. The downside to buffets is that they do tend to be more expensive than their plated counterparts, and people do have to get up and potentially stand in line to get their food. Always ask your venue or caterer how many buffets they will do in order to eliminate, or at least lessen, lines. The standard in the industry is a one sided buffet for every 50 guests.

The third service we will cover is family style service. This is exactly what it sounds like, in that the servers bring out platters of food and place it in the center of the table. Then like a big Thanksgiving dinner at home, the guests pass the platters around the table and serve themselves. A benefit to this service is it is similar to a buffet service, except the platters of food are brought and placed at the table versus your guests having to get up and stand in line at a buffet. This service does tend to be more expensive than plated or buffet service, and is limited on the amount of food you can offer, based upon the space available at each table. It is not recommended to do more than 5 or 6 items, or you will lose space for your centerpieces and for your guests to comfortably eat. By using longer rectangular tables you won’t have to be limited as much on the amount of items you can offer, and it will also lessen the amount platters needed potentially lessening your cost.

The last service we will cover is stations. This service is very similar to buffet service except each ‘station’ has a different menu. This is a casual type of service but very trendy. A great feature and benefit to this service is it allows you and your guests to enjoy a lot of different kinds of food, it also allows your guests to mingle and creates better conversation between guests. You can theme each station with each offering of food or simply choose all of your favorites and divide the stations into different ethnic cuisine backgrounds. The downside to this service is it tends to be the most expensive due to staffing, equipment needed and the overall amount of food that will be needed. Even though the stations might be offering smaller portions it will mean that they have to prepare more to ensure your guests don’t leave hungry. Your guests will also have to visit multiple stations in order to enjoy all that is being offered.

In the end it is your wedding reception so you can stay traditional or you can mix it up. Serve appetizers and salads plated, the main entrees family style and then end the night with a fabulous dessert station. The sky is the limit so do whatever suits your style, theme and budget. As long as the food is presented well and tastes good the guests will enjoy it and talk about it for years to come.

In deciding what service is best for your wedding there are many factors for you to consider. First, as much as we all hate to admit it, you need to be realistic about your budget. Decide what you would like to serve, and work with your venue or caterer on how you can best make that happen within your budgeted amount. More importantly though, think about the atmosphere you’d like to have at your wedding. Are you looking for a classy and chic event? Do you see cozy conversation among your guests, like a family? Do you want guests up and moving around the whole time? The beauty of your wedding will be in the details. By thinking through a few of these things you will be well equipped to make the right decision, putting your signature on even the meal service for your wedding.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Delegation

Are you a wedding planning control freak?

Come check us out at Top Wedding Sites today and Learn to Let Go

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Until the Last Petal Falls

After the cost of the venue, flowers are the second highest budgeted expense in a wedding. Brides and Groom’s will spend $3000 to $35000 on the production of their event. The fairy tale can be old world romance with lush floral, or a modern stylish design of candles and symmetry, or the current trend of crystals and manzanita branches. No matter what the vision is for you wedding day, when the celebration ends the ballroom is still adorned with the remnants of the glamour that was.

The question on what to do with the flowers after the event is almost never addressed. So, here are few tips and ideas to discuss with your florist or designer:


Can the floral centerpieces be taken home by your guests?
Some floral vases are considered rentals and the floral studio will return and pick them up. You may be charged if all of the vases are not there. So, make sure that the floral staged on top of these vases are portable.


What to do with the flowers?
You can decide to give centerpieces to your immediate family, or friends, who may have been a great asset in planning your wedding. You might want to take a couple of them to your honeymoon suite, or at least have your parents enjoy them at their homes.

How about donating them to local hospitals?
Each hospital, senior center, charity or school will most likely have a policy about floral donations. It is best to check with them to see if they can accept your floral pieces. If they are willing to accept your generous donation, keep in mind you will be responsible for delivering them. In that case, you might want to ask your venue if it is okay to leave the floral overnight. In the morning you will need to assign someone to pick them up from the ballroom and deliver them to your charity of choice.


Still have more?
If you still have floral left after distributing as much as you can, what happens? The unfortunate truth is, they will be trashed. If you want them recycled, check with your florist or designer to see if they offer recycling service. If they do not, contact your local recycling company to see if it is something they can accommodate.

I hope this helps you in planning the end of your floral journey. Your floral vision will live in perpetuity in your wedding pictures and video. Enjoy them for as long as you can.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Bollywood Weddings

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Top 5 Wedding Budget Savers

The average wedding in Chicago costs $32,000. This is where you stop and pause and wonder if there might be a less expensive way to go about this. Imagine what you can do with $32,000?? Makes you wonder….. Although the economy is coming back slowly it is still not the time to be frivolous and go overboard on the spending for your wedding.

There are many ways that you can save on your wedding budget but today we are going to focus on what we feel are the top 5 budget crunchers and can make the biggest impact on your bottom line budget.

Cut the guest List:
Each time you add a name to your invitation list, you're increasing your budget significantly. It's not just the catering costs, but also the extra centerpieces, favors, rentals, etc. Don't invite anyone you haven't talked to in five years. Don't feel obligated to let single people bring a date. Avoid feeling pressured to invite all your work colleagues. And don't let your friends bring their children. You can also decide to eliminate categories like "relatives more distant than first cousins" or "friends from volunteer work." By not inviting anyone from that group, you'll help avoid hurt feelings.

Use more greenery than flowers in your centerpieces:
Instead of using all flowers for your centerpiece décor you can also opt to use elegant greenery such as ivy, vines and banana leaves to enhance your centerpiece without the cost of floral. Not only does this reduce the requirement of flowers, but it also adds color to your piece.


Buy Flowers that are in-season:
If you opt for an elaborate floral décor then it is advisable to choose flowers that are in season. Some perennial flowers include roses, lilies and orchids. Out of season flowers, or exotic flowers, can end up costing you double the cost of flowers that are local or in season.

Offer, beer, wine and signature cocktails instead of a full bar:
Full hosted bars can be expensive. Most venues will charge anywhere from $25.00 to $45.00 per person for a 4-5 hour bar, and this is accessed even if your guests do not drink. By offering your guests a choice of beer, wine and signature cocktails versus a full bar you give your guests an opportunity to enjoy an alcoholic beverage during the event, while lowering your bar tab considerably, and you do not appear to be cheap.


Save postage on your wedding invitations:
Forgo the inner envelope and blotter paper, which are leftover relics from times when ink needed time to dry, and people wanted a pristine envelope. The advance in the internet has made it possible to have your guests reply on-line rather than having a reply card. Not only will you save money from the printer bill, it should also reduce your postage expense.

This is a once in a lifetime experience and you should feel comfortable with the decisions made in regards to the budget. If I can leave you with one tip regarding your budget it would be: whether you have $10,000 or $100,000 or more to spend on your wedding, the reception venue and catering services are two items that will cost you the most. No amount of cost comparing and budgeting will save you more money then simply reducing your guest list.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Always a Bridesmaid, how to win an award as “Best Supporting Bridesmaid”

Whether it’s your sister, grade school friend or college roommate, some important woman (or man) in your life has invited you to be a part of their bridal party. If you’ve ever been part of a wedding party you know this role comes with fun times, and responsibility.

Here are my top 5 tips on how to best support your bride to be:


1. Start Saving – There is no getting around it, standing up in a wedding is going to cost some money (dress, shoes, showers, etc.). If you say yes to being in a wedding, you are saying yes to the cost of being in the wedding as well. Be realistic about your budget, and if you have any concerns talk to the bride to be before accepting the role. Once you’re on board, spend with a smile. This is someone you love, and she would do (or has done) the same for you.

2. Offer an Opinion – when asked to do so. Respect the decisions the bride feels confidence in making on her own, and offer honest opinions when she asks for them (also remember that she may not take ALL of your suggestions)

3. Lend a Helping Hand – A bride’s to do list is never-ending, or so it seems. As her big day approaches reach out to her, see what you can do. It may be tying ribbons, sorting through contracts to make a contact info. sheet, or going out for a glass (ok, bottle) of wine to de-stress. The bride might not want to ask for help, since you’ve done so much already, but she will appreciate you offering more than you know.

4. Run Interference – Unfortunately there are always going to be people involved in a wedding who cause a bit of trouble. We all have the complaining cousin, opinionated sister-in-law or friend who forgets this day is not about them. Be a buffer between the troublemaker and bride. She has enough to worry about. You may end up with a headache from listening to all that complaining, but someday karma will send the favor back to you.

5. Have Fun – Be her right hand (and left, when necessary), through her wedding day prep, ceremony and all of the formal activities. When it comes time for the reception, kick back and have fun. The bride will most likely be most relaxed during this time, and will take away many happy memories of her guests celebrating the love between her and her new husband.

Abide by all of these guidelines and you are sure to win “Best Supporting Bridesmaid” in our book!

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

What to Wear: The Mom Edition

Today Event Architect Adel Domingo is going to help the moms (of the bride and groom) prepare to search for their wedding day attire. She offers some great tips, and personal experience. Take it away Adel...

What kind of dress do you wear?


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From my personal experience, picking out my dress was an easy one. It was pure luck and great timing. I didn’t know what style I was and it turned out to be a combination of modern and elegant and I narrowed down three dresses within 45 minutes. What was truly important for me is to getting my future daughter-in-law’s approval and that my dress was ultra-comfortable and I got both.

What is your style – modern, glamorous, classic, romantic, elegant, over-the-top, or are you not even sure? If you do choose a dress, it is highly advisable not to choose anything that can be considered over-the-top. Even if your son or daughter is a rock star or Lady Gaga, your dress should be just at least one level simpler. Your dress should not look similar to the bride’s, or the other Mom’s dress for obvious reasons, but you also do not want to clash with the bride’s vision. There are thousands of dresses to choose from so the following tips may help you narrow down your choices:

Modern – look for clean lines with a unique neckline, color should be unique and accessories do not have to match the dress. Your dress should be easily worn again at a modern art museum gala or even another wedding with simpler jewelry and accessories.

Glamorous – a toned down version of going to the Oscars is the look for you. Do not show too much skin, but explore dresses with one shoulder strap or a halter top. You need not borrow your diamonds from Tiffany or Harry Winston, but diamonds, or similar gems, should make great accessories. Again, this can be worn again at a posh event where you can lose the jacket or shawl.

Classic – this style of dress is a simple style but can be in a striking color like salmon or teal. A suit or non-trendy dress will suffice with pearls and low heels or sandals. This outfit can be worn again at a fundraiser, luncheon or a holiday party by just changing the accessories.


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Romantic – Silk, chiffon and ruffles are good features to look for and you want to pull out that old broach or the earrings your hubby gave you for your first anniversary to add as sentiments. This can be worn again at a fundraising event or wedding anniversary party.

Elegant – A mixture or taffeta, silk and lace might be involved, a jacket or shawl to cover the arms, pearls and diamonds are the perfect jewelry. The skirt or bottom half may be a simple cut but the jacket or top may be slightly off the shoulder. Like the other dresses, this can worn again at special occasions with a slight change of jewelry or jackets.


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If you don’t know what style looks best on you, and you have no experience being the Mom of the Groom or Bride, do what a bride does. Make an appointment at a bridal salon and try on several gowns of style and color. Do you need to buy one as soon as possible? Yes, if the wedding is less than six months away and need to be ordered. If you are shopping at a department store, you can buy it right then and there.

If you decide to wear a shorter dress, make sure it is knee-length or below. Since your feet will show more, make sure to wear a visually appealing pair of shoes. It is also not unusual these days to have a second pair to change into for comfort after a few dances.

You can still apply the above styles even for casual beach or outdoor weddings. You may replace the material with cotton, silk or gauzy, colorful textures but keep the elegance of the event in mind.

This is one of the most important days of your child’s life and you should look beautiful. You want to look “presentable” but in your own style and personality. What is the big deal about the Mom’s dress? Your dress is just as important as the bridal parties’ wardrobe, and other than the bride and groom, the parents’ role is highly respected when their children are taking this huge step in their lives. This is not her basketball game or his track meet you’re going to, this is THE day.


Final Tip (and it's an important one):
The final tip is once you have narrowed down your choices to a few dresses, ask the bride to help you choose. It will make her feel respected and if it happens to be your future daughter-in-law, she will definitely appreciate it. If it’s your daughter, she will appreciate any time she has with you before she officially leaves your home, and that her opinion matters. If it’s your son, just show your final set of choices by showing him photos even if he has an opinion or not. He will still appreciate your enthusiasm and participation on his important day.

Thanks Adel!

What do you think, brides will you share this list with your mom? Do you have an idea of what she should wear?

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Orchid Resorts & Escapes: Beautifully Unexpected Honeymoons

Planning the perfect wedding has been all encompassing, you are so looking forward to the honeymoon, but where will you go? You can always rely on the all time favorites such as Hawaii, the Caribbean or Mexico, but we want to introduce you to some secrets that are out there. We turned to our friends at Orchid Resorts & Escapes to provide us some insight on unique honeymoon locations. Their small boutique properties are a unique place for a romantic hideaway, simply a place to breathe and relax.
Contact Oliveaire for reservation information, and get special perks just for our readers

Here are our top seven lesser known places, sure to make many future top 10 lists:

Deer Valley Chalet – Deer Valley, Utah
For those winter wedding and ski enthusiasts this is a must see. Located within a private gated community just moments from Park City, Deer Valley Chalet, is one of the most dynamic properties in ski country. Snuggle in and enjoy the awe inspiring scenery, as expansive windows offer up panoramic views of the lake, mountains and forest.
Receive a complimentary bottle of champagne, stay five nights and get the sixth night free

Golden Bear Lodge – Punta Cana, Dominican Republic
Each of the Golden Bear Lodge’s guest rooms and suites come complete with chic furnishings, marble bathrooms, and impressive ocean views of the sparkling Caribbean. At the Golden Bear Lodge the hours will pass in a haze of relaxation and peace, making you seriously consider missing your flight back home.
Receive complimentary full breakfast served in your suite along with fresh squeezed juice and flowers, complimentary room upgrade at check-in (based on availability) and 3 p.m. late check-out (based on availability).

Gran Hotel Son Net – Mallorca Spain
Located atop a gently sloping tree-clad hill overlooking the village of Puigpunyent, guests of the hotel are afforded beautiful views of the surrounding pine valleys and Tramuntana mountain range. The hotel features include two outdoor pools, private terraces, Zen Zone Beauty Center, rose gardens, and citrus orchards. The Oleum Restaurant will tempt you with exclusive wines and innovative Mallorcan dishes made from locally sourced seasonal ingredients.
Receive a complimentary poolside cabana for your entire stay which includes a personalized pool concierge experience with fresh towels, fruit skewers and sorbets served during the day. In addition, and based on availability, guests will receive early check-in, late check-out and an upgrade to the next room category.

Hidden Pond – Kennebunkport, Maine
Unique cottage features include screened porches, fireplaces, quietly lavish décor, luxurious bathrooms, linens and amenities, and outdoor showers under the canopy of the forest. Escape to the comfort of our spa nestled up amongst the treetops or keep you feet firmly planted on the ground and explore our organic farm, there is something for everyone.
Receive a Maine inspired basket of local treats and specialties; wildflower honey, homemade blueberry jam, maple syrup, maine blueberry soda, farm stand cheese and assorted crackers, Bartlett’s raspberry wine.

Kamalame Cay – Andros Island, Bahamas
Kamalame Cay is a 96-acre private island hideaway with three miles of sugar soft sandy beaches. This barrier island is accessible only by private ferry or seaplane. A handful of gracefully decorated private villas dot this island escape and face a rhythmic ocean surf that will lull you into an attitude that requires only bare feet, suntan lotion, and a cocktail, making Kamalame Cay the perfect place for romance.
Receive a bottle of house champagne and a $100 resort credit – to be used on the property including the spa, fishing or snorkeling!

Sivory Punta Cana – Dominican Republic
Set along the shores of a private beach which stretches as far as the eye can see, this boutique resort is the ideal place to enjoy the tropical paradise of the Domincan Republic. When you visit the Sivory expect to bask in an oasis of exclusive pleasures where your worries, stress and the wedding planning grind are all banished to the horizon.

Villa Feltrinelli – Gargnano, ItalyVilla Feltrinelli, is situated along the shores of Lake Garda, a grand hotel boasting an atmosphere of casual elegance, high style, and historical importance. Outside the majestic villa lies a magnificent swimming pool, where guests can sit back and take in the splendid views over the mountains of northern Italy. All in all, when history and luxury combine with style and serenity, beautiful moments abound.
Receive a complimentary 30-minute sunset cruise on a private boat including a bottle of Italian sparkling wine.

So whether you like the traditional favorites or prefer the unique; whatever you choose make sure to have the time of your new (married) life!!!!

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

Beauty Trends for 2011

Today Katie Gutierrez is going to share some beauty trends for 2011 that you can use for your wedding, and beyond...

Beauty trends come and go, and they can change within a blink of the eye. It is always interesting to see what comes back into style. Whether you decide to use these trends on your special day or not, it’s always fun to try something new, maybe give them a shot on your honeymoon!


Make up

LIPS – Luscious OR Nude?
FRESH for 2011= Juicy Orange Lips: Don’t think you can pull off FULL ORANGE LIPS; you can tone down that orange with reds and pinks to create a variety of looks. Based on your complexion another great color is FUCHSIA.

Prefer to be Nude? Try Cream, Taupe or Camel lips to present an elegant and glamorous look.

Another great trend to make those lips succulent is adding not just a touch, but a ton of GLOSS.

EYES
While lips can still present both sides of the spectrum, eyes are all BRIGHT for 2011. Fluorescent shades, bright colorful shades! In order to use this look on a regular basis try focusing the color just along the lash line, both upper and lower. Blues and greens are in for 2011. To add some sparkle try a little glitter.

Long lashes are a must to complete a bold eye. There are special eye liners that go right to the root of the lashes to craft the image of longer lashes. Also check out lengthening mascara or even fake eyelashes. After these simple tips you’ll be able capture immediate attention by just batting those baby blues a few times.


Face

You want that young clean look? Go for pink blush. Pinks create that young and fresh look. Also try gold and shimmery blush for a softer look.

Hair

70’s looks are making their way back. Buns, big, bouncy, feathered hair, who would have thought? These looks are great ,when you add a little spin to them. Add hair clips to create parts. Buns are easy and stylish once again. Try a high bun or a tousled bun at the nape of your neck. Pin pieces back to showcase your face. Capture that imperfectly perfect looks!


Statement Accessories
Today all accessories it shares one common theme - the bigger the better.

Hair accessories: Headbands that are flirty, feathery and embellished are in this year. This adds a dimension to your hairstyle. It creates a flawless look even if you just got out of bed. Hair accessories can be worn with any style and outfit. It can be used to pull together the polished look, or even used to create that dramatic appeal. It adds femininity, drama and a bit of romance. Hair clips! Use one or more to add sophistication and a theatrical appeal to the simplest look.

Bib style and layered textured necklaces add a striking appeal to your outfit. It is eye catching, and adds instant chic to your look.

Big bangles…lots of them – again, adding a wow factor. Big is bold. They are a great inexpensive accessory.

Belts are no longer to just hold pants up! Kimono style belts, sash style belts and belts with huge decorative pieces add that special touch to your style.

As you notice – 2011 trends are BIG, BOLD, and DRAMATIC and shout style. Try to move out of your comfort zone and be BOLD.

Choosing a Centerpiece

Your flowers will be a sizeable investment on your wedding day. Your guests will admire your flowers at the ceremony, but most of all at the reception. Your reception centerpiece can capture your guests’ attention, with interesting details and beautifully placed flowers. Here are some thoughts on designing trendy and creative centerpiece that will captivate your guests:

Collection of Vases

A popular design, as well as budget friendly. Using a collection of cylinder or square vases of varying heights will give the table dimension. A monochromatic color palette will give you a sleek contemporary look.

Wrapped Vases

If colored vases are not offered by your florist, choose to wrap them in eye-catching fabrics. A thick border ribbon, crystal ropes or layering with shimmer paper stock will highlight texture in an otherwise flat vase.

Sparkle

Nothing sets the mood like candles. Setting pillar candles in a mosaic candle holder, or floating candles in crystal dishes, can accessorize your table. If possible, use colored votive holders that will match your event color palette.

Potted Plants and Herbs

Beautiful and earth friendly. This aromatic display of greens can easily be incorporated into any design. The best part is that the guests can take them home to enjoy and reminisce about your wedding day.

Illumination

As it is at any event, the lights in the room will be dimmed. This is most certainly going to give you romantic ambiance. But it is a deterrent to your centerpiece. Add an illumination box that can uplight your centerpiece, from the bottom up. If your budget allows, definitely pin spot, at a minimum, your high centerpieces. After all, it is the crown jewel of the evening.


Your personal touch will brand your centerpiece. Exquisite details will certainly keep your guests raving about your flowers. We hope you will take more chances with your centerpieces, we are always inspired by out of the box design ideas.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia

The Cost of a Cake

The sky is truly the limit when it comes to designing your wedding cake. Gone are the days when you had white frosting on white cake with white filling. Bakeries are doing amazing things with flavors and décor when it comes to wedding cakes. Like everything other detail of your wedding day, you need to budget for the cost of your wedding cake.


Once you have booked your reception venue, ask if your cake is included. Some hotels will include a cake, baked either in house (less likely) or from a specific bakery that they work with (more likely). You should still have complete control over the style and flavor of your cake, but be sure to ask, there may be restrictions based on the size of your wedding.


Have your heart set on getting your cake from your favorite local bakery, which is not the same baker the hotel uses? Ask if you can add something to your bar or a few upgraded hors d'oeuvres in its place.

Cutting fees: Be sure to ask if your cake will be sliced for guests to take home, or served as dessert. If you would like the protocol switched you may be asked to pay a small fee (typically about $1/person) for them to do so. If you are bringing in a cake from an outside bakery you may incur a similar fee for the hotel cut your cake.


The actual cost of a cake has many variables, including your choice of cake flavor, filling flavor and frosting. Plan on paying anywhere from $4 - $15/person depending on your selections. Cake flavors range from your standard yellow or chocolate to black forest, carrot or banana. Filling choices include fresh fruit, ganache or cannoli, and that’s just a start. Fondant frosting will cost more than butter cream, and the cost will change based on your décor choices.


The best part of ordering a cake (in my humble opinion) is that you get to go taste test a few. Be sure to taste the flavors of cake and filling that you order, so that there will be no surprises on your wedding day. Bring along any photos of cakes that you like, and plan to look through the collection of photos at the bakery to make your wedding cake selections.

Enjoy this sweet task!

Special thanks to our friend Igor at The Baking Institute for providing us photos, flavor options and cake inspiration.

BBFN (Bridal Bliss for Now),
Olivia